July 5: Responsibilities and work

Thursday is here and I’m pretty psyched. Today I usually do not work and have responsibility for the kids. However, I’ve been instructed that Big Bro and Red need to be taken to daycare on my days off, even though I keep Twin Crazy and Twin Husky with me, even though it is just daycare, even though I do not work on these days and WANT to be with them, and even though Twin Crazy and Twin Husky are now forced to ride on the highway FOUR times to do the drop offs and picks up with me.

I’m psyched today because co-parent “allowed” me to keep everyone home today and tomorrow since he had a vacation with them on Monday and Tuesday of this week. So I had the day with the kids, ALL of the kids, and it was great.

Highlights of the Day:

  • The kids woke up at 8 AM. They hopped in my bed and I loved it. Red brought in “Cocoa” they guinnea pig and I hoped she would not poop in my bed.
  • We had a fast breakfast and all got changed. I picked some weeds and feed the chickens as the kids got changed.
  • We hit the library in my new town to check it out and get the kids library cards. IT IS HUGE!!!!! Big Bro knew how to get a library card. I did this with him at our old house. Thie kid needs to know how to write their names by themselves. So that was easy for him. The big news is that Red is now writing her name too!!! So she got to sign up for a library card too. I told them the responsibility that comes with having a library card. How they are responsible for taking care of the card and for taking care of the books we borrow. They were pumped. We all headed to the books and passed a huge section of DVDs that I got excited over. We picked out books first, one for each child, and then went and picked out 2 DVDs. They were all excited.
  • We snacked outside of the library and made it to the car in one piece. We had some lunch and then the Twins took their naps. I read their new books to them.
  • During naps we played with Cocoa, watched some TV, and did work in the yard. Me and Red worked together to dig holes, water the earth, and plant corn stalk sprouts that were given to us by our neighbors. She was great with the hose. She also found time to chase chickens and she picked up two on different occasions. I’m calling her my “chicken whisperer”. She’s really good at getting them and they seem to like her. Her face looks so proud when she holds them – she tries to hold back a smile which is so cute. Big Bro helped me to repot a raspberry bush to a bigger outdoor pot. They both really enjoy the one-on-one time and working together with me.
  • After naps, the kids played on scooters, and I continued to work in the yard. I used some shears to cut back some trees in the driveway. Big Bro swept.
  • The five of us took a walk to the mailbox for a break – someone was crying beforehand and I needed a diversion.
  • I then got adventurous and started to “weed wack” the mass of dead weeds in the backyard. WHY DID I WAIT UNTIL NOW TO START USING IT? THE THING IS AMAZING!!!! The weeds come down within seconds and seriously the yard looks so much better. Big Bro and Red were turning my Tumbler of compost, and then also got rakes to clean up the dead weeds. They were both working so hard. So cute. Twin Crazy was scared of the weed-wacker.
  • I started dinner. All kids ate like teenagers from all of the hard work. Big Bro said I guess we are good gardeners. And I have a green thumb!
  • I cleaned up and the kids played. Afterwards we sat and relaxed and started to watch a DVD about baby animals. Twin Crazy squealed. I made air-popped popcorn and the kids went nuts. They love that thing. Then it was time for bed.
  • Big Bro did not want Cocoa in my room any longer. He asked if she could be kept in the kids rooms. Sharing weeks. One week in the Boy room, one week in the Girl room. Red and Twin Crazy were fine with that idea. I told them that having Cocoa in their room comes with responsibility. Whomever’s room she is in, needs to make sure she has enough food each day and also needs to pick out her poops from the cage. They all agreed to this plan.
  • We brushed teeth and read books in the living room. Someone noticed deer ourside in our backyard (probably puzzled by the new look of the yard and the lack of flowing weeds). All kids went nuts. Twin Crazy was later scared about the deer and Big Bro admited that he was scared a bit too. I reassured them about the doors and the house and the alarm. That seemed to work.
  • Everyone went to sleep immediately. It was a full day.
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    I am now sitting in bed and feeling great; but also thinking about the list of things that I need to do for the custody evaluation, financial mediation, and also getting my new lawyer up to speed on my case. I really need to get a lot accomplished and its just too difficult to get motivated. I just want to sit in this house and enjoy myself with the kids.

    Til tomorrow –
    – Mama K

    June 5: Getting ready for country living!

    It was an early night for me last night and a late start for me this morning.   Things are catching up with me.   I’m not able to keep up the pace and my body is telling me so.   The sleep felt good.  

    Highlights of the Morning:

    • Chocolate Tuesday!   Kids were demanding MORE, and MORE, and MORE
    • Twin Husky was hiding from me when I tried to find him to wipe his face of Nutella.  We were cracking up when I found him in a corner of the toy room hiding behind the toy kitchen doors.   I love his laugh.  It comes from deep down, in his belly.   His laugh will always make me laugh.  A child’s laugh is special, but what Twin Husky has is different.  It honestly brews up from his toes to his belly to his throat and comes out as a chuckle/giggle/belly laugh.  I love it.   It is something very special about him.
    • Twin Crazy got mad at me when I asked her not to wear daddy’s shoes upstairs.  She was walking towards the top of the stairs and a little pint size girl in man-shoes on top of the stairs is a disaster waiting to happen.  Because of this reprimand she threw her body on the floor in a tantrum, kicking her feet and looking at me like I took away her favorite toy.  I explained my reasoning to her, that it was dangerous near the stairs and I didn’t want her to get hurt, and moved on downstairs to deliver clothes options to Red and Big Bro.
    • Big Bro did well picking his clothes from the options I provided.  So did Red.  They are both so picky but I think it’s because they have too many clothes to choose from.  If they had less, I think they would be easier to deal with in terms of clothes.   When faced with just 2 or 3 choices they do much better.
    • Big Bro was ready for his bike ride.  He always asks me first if it is OK for him to go.  I run out to him and kiss him and say “Yes, have fun, I love you.”
    • Twin Husky was in the street for some reason near trash cans sweeping up some of the remnant trash.  Maybe some weeds didn’t make the trash pick up.   Did he really get a broom from the garage and decide to sweep on his own???
    • I was taking Red to school this morning so that alleviated a tantrum.  I gathered her things and she seemed happy to go to school.


    I am really sluggish now.  I had no coffee or breakfast this AM.  Coffee is a must but the coffee maker is at my place and I ran out of the instant stuff.  I need to get more instant coffee for me to get through this week and next.  

    I have work to do this morning and would like to actually have some focused time to work on something and feel like I’m getting something complete.   I need to feel like I’m accomplishing something today at work or else it weighs me down – I think nailing down a date for one of the forums in Fall and reaching out to speakers for those dates will be a good project for me to accomplish today.  I’ll focus on that and then work through other things that need to get done afterwards.

    I’m going to head to my house tonight to take the garbage bins to the road.  I know that this is something one of my neighbors would easily do for me but I want to go there myself.   Maybe if I go without the kids I can also get some work done there like unpacking my room.  We’ll see.


    Highlights of My Working Day:

    • Don’t tell anyone – but I spent a lot of time today shopping.  Amazon.com.  They are having a 20% sale in the gardening section and I went a little crazy.  I bought more hand weeders, new gloves (I already have holes in my other pair), gloves for all of the kids, 2 sets of kid hand tools, a bird feeder, 2 windchimes, deer netting, bamboo poles for the deer netting (I’m thinking of my poor twig trees that got attacked by those 2 cute deer in my neighborhood)…. And then I kept going and got a tumbler/rotator compost container.  Am I going overboard?  Yes.  But that is how I am.  Extremes.  I’m REALLY into this gardening thing and I can’t stop.   I’m looking forward to setting up an area in the yard to plant these trees.  I want to see the leaves come back.  It would be wonderful to actually see these trees grow and maybe throw off some fruit next year?
    • I did some sales activities for one of the forums – trying to set up sales calls
    • I started to get materials ready for a survey we are going to launch for another forum
    • I had a conference call with our partners for a different forum we are trying to launch – they are such slackers.  I have some to-dos as a result and I want to focus on that tomorrow.

    I am on the ferry now and it is sunny.  I am happy with my purchases today.  I am happy to get to the house tonight to take out the trash.  I am happy that my mother is coming tomorrow to stay with me for a few days.  I am happy to be working from home tomorrow.   I’m feeling really good right now.  


    Dinner and Bedtime:

    • I picked up Red and she ran to me from the playground.  We gathered her “stuff” and head to the car.  When we got to the twins, they were going for a walk towards the house.  Twin Crazy saw me and ran for a tricycle.  She began pedaling it with her feet… before she could only scoot around with her legs.   She was so proud of herself and was squealing with delight.  I had to get a movie of it.  Twin Husky was also riding around on the pedals – he is a pro at that now.
    • We picked up Big Bro and headed home.   I mentioned having a FAST dinner and for Big Bro to promise NOT to get the neighbors tonight… I wanted to finish early so that we could get to my house afterwards.  Everyone agreed.
    • We ate super-fast; I took down my bedroom curtains and we hit the road
    • I was taking care of trash bins and sweeping up a bit.  Big Bro watered the outside plants.  Red watered the inside plants.  Then they found cubby shelves that I bought for each of their rooms, still in boxes.  They proceeded to rip open the boxes and start to organize the pieces while I was doing the outside work.   I asked them if they wanted me to put them together while they were at school or if they wanted me to wait for them – they both wanted me to wait for them so they could help but they REALLY wanted to start the project tonight.  I denied them their wish.
    • The place is completely disheveled and I hope my mom isn’t too frightened but she will feel good about helping me out.  I’m so glad she’s coming.
    • On the ride home, Red kept talking about the new girl in her class.  I was having trouble understanding why.  When we were at home she asked me to bring up to her the book that she left in the garage, the same one she took to school today.  It is called “The New Girl” and we got it from a cereal box.  I think it is amazing how she has a new girl at school today and she brought in that book to school to show her teachers.  Her one teacher read it to the whole class.  Is it a coincidence or did she really make that connection between the book and the new girl in her class?   She was proud that her teacher read her book to the class.  And I was proud of her for empathizing with her new friend at school.



    I’m tired but content.  I looked through email and Amazon was having a 25% patio furniture sale so I bought a glider bench for my front yard “porch”.  This is out of control.  I have to stop myself.   I can’t wait to open up all of these packages and start my country living!!!

    Til tomorrow –

    Mama K

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